No matter how good-looking or biologically attractive you are, there must be some sort of chemistry between you and someone else before there is attraction.
Every one knows what it is, but chemistry is a very difficult thing to quantify.
While there are different types of intelligence, for the sake of this discussion I am referring to people who are â€œbook smartâ€ (meaning they do well in school).
At the very lowest levels of intelligence, attractiveness is also low for obvious reasons.
Maybe they can help us figure out how spiritual attraction works.
When I was in high school, I downplayed the fact that I was in advanced classes because smart kids were â€œnerds.â€ I wanted to be more like the â€œcoolâ€ kids.
While different people have different preferences, physical attractiveness is something that is very intuitive.
My biopsychology professor in college claimed that attractiveness could be explained biologically by a personâ€™s interest in preserving their DNA.
I imagine that spiritual attractiveness starts to diminish as intelligence increases past this first level.He constantly checks his messages to see if she called.His friends finally coax him to try to loosen up and see what else is out there.While physical and biological attractiveness are hard to change, you can actually do something about spiritual attractiveness.Over years of observing the opposite sex, Iâ€™ve picked up on a few interesting tendencies in dating that hold true on average.He taught that women were attracted to men with resources (so that they could protect them and their offspring) and that men were attracted to women with the characteristics of fertility (who would be more likely to bear multiple children.) While this theory seems to have worked well in our society, it certainly isnâ€™t the only factor affecting attractiveness.There are plenty of physically attractive, rich men who donâ€™t have any luck with women, and plenty of men without money (or looks) who do just fine.This is because I believe that a person has the ability to figure out where he went wrong and increase his spiritual attractiveness.This is probably the most frustrating aspect of dating.Some people are better at creating it than others, The type of attractiveness that transcends physical or biological attractiveness is what I call spiritual attractiveness.Spiritual attractiveness is a kind of gravity that creates the chemistry that draws people together.