Results showed that couples that had dated an average of twenty-five months before marriage were most happily married at the conclusion of the study.The study also looked at couples who were quicker to get married.I did some digging and reached out to relationship therapists and psychologists to get their thoughts.Here's what the professionals have to say about the ideal length of time to date.Still, "Because there are other variables to consider such as family or origin dynamics, values, etc., I recommend couples wait a minimum of one year to marry," he says. D., author of , the "two year" rule is pretty sensible, but "different couples have very different circumstances.
The more time we've been together, the more we've seen each other handle life, and this is the best way to build the foundation for a long and happy marriage.Another more recent study published by researchers from Emory University following three thousand couples found that those who dated three or more years were 39 percent less likely to get divorced than those who dated less than a year.Couples that dated for two years were 20 percent less likely to split.If we can draw any conclusions from these studies, it would be that the couples who tended to hold off longer to marry ended up being the most satisfied in their marriages in the long-term and less likely to divorce.Even with these studies telling us that staying the course in dating does seem to pay off in marriage, there are always exceptions to the rule.In a Penn State University study called the PAIR Project, Professor Ted L.Huston followed 168 newlywed couples over fourteen years and charted each couple's relationship satisfaction throughout."There is no ideal time to date before marriage," Firestone says. If a couple has been married for fifty years, but they have been miserable and treating each other badly during those years, is it really a good marriage? a marriage will last, but I feel more confident giving our relationship the time we need to be intentional and discerning.Even arranged marriages work sometimes, and they haven’t dated at all. "If you're seriously considering marriage, you should focus on discerning whether or not you are truly ready for marriage, despite the amount of time you have been dating. Maybe it didn't have to be two years, or maybe it will be three.These couples dated an average of eighteen months and were engaged for half that time.Of those who were quicker to marry, the study found that the marriages survived to the seven-year mark, but many divorced after that.