"Because people have very little insight about themselves, they keep choosing the same person time and again, with the same results.
I also believe that this recommendation applies with equal force to single men and women in college.These couples dated an average of eighteen months and were engaged for half that time.Of those who were quicker to marry, the study found that the marriages survived to the seven-year mark, but many divorced after that. You see, I've always had this two year rule in my mind for how long I want to date someone before we get married. After twenty-four months together, you usually know whether your partner is someone you could really commit to—forever.But a lot of my friends have been getting married with fewer than this magical two years under their belts, and it's making me second-guess my rule. Does it really matter at all how long you date before you get married?We all know or have heard of that unicorn couple who fell in love instantly and have sustained a happy marriage ever since. "Almost all of the experts I spoke to recommended a year as a healthy amount of time to date before marriage."I recommend a minimum of one year provided each partner has a good, clear understanding of what they are looking for in a mate," says Stephen J.Betchen, DSW, author of , agrees that dating one to two years is safest.“There are no hard and fast rules," Amodeo acknowledges."But I must admit that I feel nervous when I hear about people getting married within a year (or even two) of meeting.I did some digging and reached out to relationship therapists and psychologists to get their thoughts.Here's what the professionals have to say about the ideal length of time to date.