When people believe it is to have sex before marriage, a little (or a lot of) touching doesn’t really mean anything. Two young people fall in love and, before they are married, they decide to have sex.
Even though current stats show that the majority of high school students don’t have sex, many movies like this present this scene as the norm for young people before they say “I do.” The way it unfolds is true to life. In Genesis , God explains how and when a sexual union between a man and a woman should take place: “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh” (emphasis added throughout). The Bible doesn’t specifically address these areas.
It all starts with physical contact—touching, hugging and kissing. “One flesh” means to have sexual intercourse (1 Corinthians ) and, according to God’s instructions, this is to take place after a man and woman have been joined together in marriage. It does clearly say that we aren’t to have sex prior to marriage (1 Corinthians , New Revised Standard Version).
Having sex prior to marriage is immoral and, according to God’s Word, we are supposed to “flee sexual immorality” (1 Corinthians ). So we’re supposed to run away from premarital sex and things that could entice us to be immoral. Because abstinence has been described in such negative terms, some educators are now choosing to use the word postponement to describe the process of delaying sex until marriage. Human history shows that these “touchy” activities often lead to lustful desire and sex. Some have asked, “Just how far can a Christian go without sinning?
Individual tolerances to holding hands or other touching may vary, so there’s no hard-and-fast rule.
Husbands and wives are instructed, “Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time (1 Corinthians 7:5a).
Making a decision on the fly with no forethought is a recipe for going too far. Is it in our best interest to engage in these practices prior to marriage? For those who have adopted the standards of behavior endorsed by today’s entertainment industry, these are stupid questions.
In fact, they are non-questions—meaning they just aren’t asked.
This verse perhaps lays down the principle for sexual relations in marriage.
Whatever is done, it should be mutually agreed upon.