In the case where you dumped the guy, one common reason is that the guy doesn’t want to be alone, he doesn’t want to deal with his grief over the breakup, and he doesn’t want to “deal with himself.” When he jumps into another relationship, he can get a dose of external female validation and derive a feeling of false sense of self-esteem and self-worth from her positive attention.
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Some people who have never had the experience ask, “Well, why did you get involved with someone like this in the first place?
” It’s a fair question and a good one because it points out a common misconception that many have about emotionally unavailable people.
Many emotionally unavailable people have a history of long-distance relationships or a habit of falling in love with people they have known for only short periods of time.
(Think of the classic, “I met the girl/guy of my dreams on vacation.”) The fact that the person they long for is out of reach is often the spark that keeps the relationship going.