“He was a white guy who was 19, and he would not let it go! Instead of shunning the curious stranger, they talked to him, and “it turned out that he had just started dating a black woman and was excited to see [our relationship] was working.It was goofy, awkward, immature, but it came from a genuine place.” You never know.You might even learn something too by stepping outside your cultural norms. We can’t help it if we have a preference for one type of look, such as one guy being attracted to skinny women with blond hair whereas another prefers curvy women with darker tones.
You two will have to do your best not to let the racism of other people interfere with your relationship.A fetish is purely sexual and the person will be attracted to ALL people of that race/appearance regardless of the person.By comparison, attraction is often just the spark which initiates a romance. If they don’t think your interracial relationship is based on a fetish, they might think it is a status thing, or a “come up.”This is most seen in interracial relationships with white women and black men.The typical advice about interracial dating says to “just ignore it.” In reality, it won’t be so easy.You might have to adjust your relationship to avoid the discomfort and general displeasure of society.Once again, this is really sad as it just reinforces a society in which women are pitted against each other.This can also be a problem with men, such as you getting shunned by your girlfriend’s male friends.Of course, this isn’t always the case – but you should be prepared for it. When the white protagonist in the movie starts a relationship with a black guy, the guy’s female friend responds with:“White girls like you, creeping up, taking our men — the whole world ain't enough, you've got to conquer ours too.”Sarah James talks about this in her article for the Huffington Post.She puts the comment in the context by pointing out that Other stats show that 42% of black women are unmarried – which leads you to understand why black women might feel like a white woman is “creeping up” on their men.They just got tired of the stares and comments so decided to go on dates elsewhere.Or, if you are the woman in the interracial relationship, the women in your boyfriend’s life will probably shun you.