Hillary Clinton has made fairness in the workplace a major pillar of her campaign.Is this just a sop to female voters, or is the candidate addressing a major and widespread problem? For the first time, women are half of the educated labor force and earn the...They’re even seen as more “morally upright.” Studies have even shown a bias in juries when the defendant is attractive.Before 8 a.m., I have often already applied seven products to my face — face wash, tinted moisturizer, eyeliner, mascara and more. In an effort to appear polished and professional, many American women — not all, of course, but many — spend a huge...Hillary Clinton has made fairness in the workplace a major pillar of her campaign. I have found love not only romantically, but in my life, in the little things, in my career.Is this just a sop to female voters, or is the candidate addressing a major and widespread problem? For the first time, women are half of the educated labor force and earn the... I know the perfect ratio of butter to milk in mac and cheese. I have good things about myself that people have to work to see.They're trained from a young age to be (often) unjustifiably self-assured, to eschew personality and affability for cocksure confidence, and to generally treat people like the feudal system is alive and kickin'. And because of this I think women tend to retain some memory of what it means to be liked (or disliked) for who one is, not how one looks.
But while I love a good compliment, it doesn’t work on me. In case you think I’m kidding, let me make something perfectly plain: I’m not an idiot, my vision is fine.We need to stop shopping the narrative that everyone is beautiful (or could be, if they did x, y, z). It only sank in for me when a well-meaning, drunk friend told me, “it’s crazy you don’t have guys crawling all over you just because of what you look like.” At first I smiled a pained smile, like I always do when people point out my appearance. Playing with my appearance became fun again and I began to do things because I liked them, not for other people.We need to lift women up to be competitive workers, voracious learners and empathetic people. I can’t ignore the effects it can have on me professionally and financially, but I can take away its power to hurt me mentally.Random guys on dating apps have matched with me only to let me know how hideous I am.When I was young, I was the girl guys asked out as a joke, “She’s All That” style.(Ana Swanson)This is why the ad campaigns that tell everyone she’s beautiful are so dangerous.They link beauty with worthiness and kindness, doing nothing for the people thrust into the world knowing that simply isn’t true.I’ve had people explain to me how I can improve my skin and diets I should try.I am blessed to be friends with some amazing and strikingly beautiful women.As I’ve noted before, a hot woman receives roughly 4× the messages an average-looking woman gets, and 25× as many as an ugly one.Getting swamped with messages drives users, especially women, away.