People in different cultures construct their scripts differently; and in our own society, different segments of the population act out different psychosexual dramas.
It is because 'in our own society, different segments of the population act out different psychosexual dramas' that Joshua Harris will be following one script and the "world" another.
Smart love helps us to love appropriately by using our heads and hearts and not just our emotions.
Smart love looks at the big picture which is, serving others, and glorifying God.
Joshua Harris's first book, written when he was only 21, turned the Christian singles scene upside down..people are still talking. Joshua Harris shares his story of giving up dating and discovering that God has something even better--a life of sincere love, true purity, and purposeful singleness.
The author takes a cue on this love from Philippians 1:9-10.
I said it seemed impolite to shout out the bargains of another store.
He said, "It doesn't matter," and I told him small things do matter.
In summary, choosing to “kiss dating goodbye” does not mean rejecting friendship with the opposite sex, companionship, romance or marriage.
We can still pursue these things but we have to do so on God’s terms and in God’s time.