The explosion of Internet dating has also muddied the waters in terms of when an actual breakup is necessary, she says.
Is it ever OK to lie when ending a romantic relationship?In other words, you can go on dates and tell yourself that one relationship will stick, but if you are not fully over an…No matter how often you remind yourself not to take dating too personally, that’s especially difficult when a new relationship you thought had real potential, suddenly dies."The nature of how to handle a breakup has to do with how you experience a relationship," says New York City-based psychoanalyst and psychotherapist Janice Lieberman, Ph D, who specializes in relationship issues.For starters, she says, not every relationship deserves a dramatic breakup.Sometimes it takes a long time for a face-to-face encounter.This can be problematic, because people get very involved with each other and then when they finally meet, there are so many other cues that indicate they're not suited for one another," she says.There is a literal pain that comes with the loss of a relationship: a sharp, palpable pain that most people feel at the point that their lower ribs connect. While this time of year brings excitement and joy, it also typically brews sadness, loneliness, jealousy, disappointment, and anxiety.It’s a pulsing, weepy pain that digs into your diaphragm, and takes your breath away. It might have been a huge blow-up where you and your partner both said awful, hurtful words. The strong foundation of trust, communication, respect, and even love… These feelings can become especially overwhelming as you reflect on your life circumstances and come to terms with being single.The warning signs that a breakup is imminent have also changed thanks to Internet dating, Lieberman says."People will go out with someone they met on or match.com, and then you can see if they are surfing the Net and looking for someone else," she says.