Because when you’re dating online, which is an extremely competitive medium, you need every advantage you can get.
A great username is a differentiator – a unique brand name – something that completely sets you apart from every other person on a dating site.
In Finding the One Online, I give you 7 hours of audio, a 180 page transcript, a 35 page workbook – and tips on everything from choosing the right site, to writing a compelling online dating profile, to taking the right photos, to flirting effectively via email so that every single person will want to meet you in person. What’s the most memorable username you’ve ever seen on a dating site?
I’m quite sure our readers are not going to copy them for their own personal usage. The most memorable (in a good way) were a Blond Moment, Polyglotapus, and Toe_Tap_N.
There’s nothing bad here, but it doesn’t elicit a huge reaction other than “oh, I guess that guy likes to ski/be outdoorsy.” We can do even better than this, but it’s certainly not bad. Phantom Scrollbooth – Pretty good : It’s a bit geeky and witty; relates you to beloved children’s book that heavily features math, and makes a subtle joke that shows levity and a sense of humor. Obviously, if you don’t get the pun because you’re not familiar with this book, or you didn’t particularly like the book much, then it wouldn’t work so well.
But if the shoe fits, then this is a fun playful username that sets you apart.
The street name carries connotations (like Soho in NYC), and it reflects the sort of person I am, the type of interests I have, etc.1998 is usually not compelling enough for the competitive ecosystem of online dating.Something playful and light, relevant to what you’re like, and funny if you’re a bit of a jokester. A username doesn’t have to encompass your entire personality to be good; it just has to be interesting and catchy enough to make someone want to click and learn a bit more about you.Trying too hard to perfectly sum yourself up is a common pitfall. Generally you should avoid anything with numbers, or super descriptive words (Ski Girl Seattle is very boring, even if it’s easy to come up with—and it only conveys information we’d be able to find in other areas of her profile).It’s also best not to just recycle whatever old school internet handle has been your Twitter username and forum login info for years—stuff we created c.The goal is to blend your sense of humor, possibly an activity or hobby or some esoteric word that in some way relates to you, and combine it all with word play that makes someone go “hmm” (in the good way, not this way) and give you a second look. : The “Cool Guys” part is boring and the rest is borderline creepy/offensive to most gals.Of course, this will be paired with a GREAT profile picture, and a GREAT profile. Let’s analyze a couple usernames and think about what they convey to potential matches. Even if sex is important to you, you come off like a complete jackass if you actually spell that out with middle school shorthand.I’ve had ever so many users come to me with usernames that either convey something totally off (wrong gender, for example) or just failed to help them stand out and shine.Your username, coupled with your profile picture, is the MOST visible thing in search results.None of them force you really take time to think about that step, or let you fill out the other aspects of your profile while you ponder the all-important “username” field and come back to it once the creative juices are flowing. Check out this link about a JDate user who picked an icky name.I confess I had no idea what “tossed salad” meant, but it turns out it meant something kinda kinky that did not convey what this gal intended.