Yet, it’s undeniable that to talk about sexuality, especially as a woman, is difficult, and as a consequence I’m genuinely apprehensive about publishing this piece. It’s a subject that needs to be openly addressed, precisely so that these contradictions can be unravelled. And perhaps the most difficult to ask: what is the reality of how they conduct their sexual lives?
There is a lack of research about the existing levels of sexual knowledge among Muslims. A new chick-lit novel about to be published in the UK is called No Sex and The City and features a Muslim heroine.
Abdelaziz Aouragh runs an online sex shop for Muslims.
“We don’t sell products that simply enhance the love life between man and woman,” he explains.
“The men tell them to do X or Y, and they don’t know any better.” Jenny understands that her seminar is unusual, but her primary concern is that the young women receive this education, and criticism is kept at bay. “But these girls need to know their rights in the bedroom.” In the USA, controversial Muslim activist Asra Nomani has written an “Islamic Bill of Rights for Women in the Bedroom.” to ‘uphold women’s right to pleasure”.
For this reason, she asks I don’t quote her real name: “I’m sticking my neck out here.” It’s not a sex instruction class that she’ll be hosting. Nomani says she received negative feedback about the bill.
But when I read about it I remember thinking, this is not in the least controversial or new for Islam.
If anything it shows how little Muslims - even vocal ones - have knowledge about Islam's un-guilty approach to sex, or understand that Islam has always been extremely open about sexual pleasure, and in particular women’s pleasure.
“The girls don’t know what should be happening in their intimate lives,” she explains.
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Courses like the one being run by Jenny are few and far between.
And those willing to discuss matters openly are equally rare.