Instead, if you want to dance and meet guys who actually want to talk to you, allow me to suggest you find a bar that plays live music.The cover charge helps to keep most of the weirdos out, the music typically starts earlier in the night, and the lighting and sound levels are typically more conducive to actually seeing and hearing other people.Try sitting somewhere visible where there’s some space for a single guy to sit next to or near you.In fact, I know women who have even made it a rule to sit next to the first single guy they see, and I’m not kidding, you will make that guy’s day.As much as we may enjoy the perks of bachelorhood, when a guy goes to his place of worship all by himself, it reminds him how much he would like to have someone there beside him and you will get his attention if you are there on your own too.So yeah you better believe I notice every woman under 40 in that church by the end of the sermon, and I’m not the only one.In fact, some of the most (seemingly) innocuous places are also the best places: the grocery store, the coffee shop, the library, you name it. Find a guy you like, make eye contact, smile, and, perhaps most importantly, linger in a manner that invites a conversation (you don’t know how many times I’ve had to sprint after a girl because she was booking it to her car). Places of worship—and for similar reasons, weddings—are a great place to meet men for two main reasons.That being said, here are three place to meet nice guys . First, at church, much like at weddings, we are surrounded by other people who are already married with kids, and it makes us want to stop being so single.
This means woman will likely see the guy as more familiar, and that actually really helps us to have confidence in approaching her.
And so most guys you find at a dark, loud, and wild nightclub are there for watching and/or grinding on women, whether they have any interest in a relationship with them or not.
The problem is not that there are never any decent guys at these places, it's that there’s no way of knowing.
I've met guys in bars, at parties, while snowboarding, through friends, and online via Ok Cupid, Match, Tinder, Hinge, Happn, Bumble, The League, How About We, Coffee Meets Bagel, and even Nerve.com, a site for “literary smut” that hosted online personals in that early-aughts dark age before smartphones.
Now imagine that feeling multiplied times a tsunami and you’ll know what washed over me when called up to see if I would travel around the country going on dates to find out if location really matters when you’re looking for love.