And that doesn’t just apply to churches: try it on a plane, a bus, in libraries, restaurants with communal tables, or concerts too.
Second, there’s something about churches and wedding ceremonies where even complete strangers have a sense of familiarity to them.
For instance, at a wedding you know whoever’s at a wedding must know the bride and/or groom to some extent and at church you know this person is part of a community with which you share common beliefs.
This means woman will likely see the guy as more familiar, and that actually really helps us to have confidence in approaching her.
That’s the feeling that rises up in my throat whenever anyone asks me the totally non-condescending question of why I’m still single, which I’ve answered so many times in so many tones (“Just haven't met the right guy, I guess! There was the guy who kept taking calls from a number he’d labeled “Happy Happy Fun Time,” which turned out to be his drug dealer.
As much as we may enjoy the perks of bachelorhood, when a guy goes to his place of worship all by himself, it reminds him how much he would like to have someone there beside him and you will get his attention if you are there on your own too.
So yeah you better believe I notice every woman under 40 in that church by the end of the sermon, and I’m not the only one.
Try sitting somewhere visible where there’s some space for a single guy to sit next to or near you.
In fact, I know women who have even made it a rule to sit next to the first single guy they see, and I’m not kidding, you will make that guy’s day.