I immediately reached out to Sylvia, along the lines of your kind advice and also offered to discuss the way forward in person.Here, I appreciate many useful comments from your readers on what to write. I was not sure she was still using her old email address and with a return to school day fast approaching, I re-sent the email to her new work email.As you can imagine, this meeting was incredibly embarrassing for me, personally and professionally.Fortunately, unlike some of your readers hope, they did not think the past failed relationship was a sackable offence.
I met with him, together with Sylvia, the same day.
They relocated because of his business opportunity, not because she would be stalking me or would orchestrate this in some elaborate vendetta.
It is a crazy coincidence but as some readers pointed out, our professional world can be very small.
Obviously, I have to leave as I need to make a living. (My partner cannot join me due to visa issue and family situation.)I do not know how it was for Sylvia. Nepotism is prevalent in this culture and family status really matters. I just do not understand why she had to get him involved.
I will be shortly moving back home for several months to work as a substitute teacher, with an agency. We could have tried to sort this out between us first, no need to go to the top immediately.