While I am fun and delightful, I am also mammothly needy and intense, and he would have taken one look at the 19 whatsapps I’d sent before 7am and run for those proverbial hills.
Which would have been a shame, because we’re actually great together. But I can say with absolute certainly that I would not have managed that space and the whole instant accessibility thing well. Despite all this technology which (for better or for worse) keeps us connected 24/7 some things have stayed the same: if the boy likes the girl he will go and get her. Stop sending more balls – it just makes you look desperate.
If it’s a tricky conversation that is probably way more hyped up in your head than it is in real life, have a walk-and-talk chat about it.
Take that last heart-melting thing that your partner did, whether accidental or intentional, and share it with them as one of your new favorite turn-ons.
And I cannot judge their eagerness and concomitant devastation when he doesn’t take the bait for one nanosecond, because that would have been me.
But on Sunday I went for a walk with a new girlfriend who shared a simple, but very clever little analogy re the whole dating website/new guy fiasco.
Particularly in romantic relationships, using our words is a step out of our comfort zone, since it is always easier to just send non-verbal signals and hope that our partners can read our mind. Sex is an especially tricky topic for some couples to talk openly about, and discussing it either seems to put it into an analytical or critical view, neither of which are that appealing.
And yet, many say communication is the secret to good sex.