” “If you can both speak the other person’s language, there are probably going to be disagreements about what language to speak.
My husband and I have a system where we swap languages every day – so today is an English day, and tomorrow is Japanese.
He doesn’t expect me to cook Japanese food and he doesn’t measure me by my miso soup making skills (I’ve gotten told by MANY people that my husband will basically judge me on my miso soup).
We do have a lot of trouble communicating when we fight and again I’m not sure if it’s a language issue, culture, or just us …” “I actually have a big problem with people prefacing their relationships with their significant other’s ethnicity. And I hate it when people act like I won a prize or ‘got’ something special because he’s Japanese. him.” “Every guy I’ve ever been in a relationship with has been different from the last, but I suppose dating a Japanese guy has the added spice of major cultural differences, as opposed to just differences in hobbies or upbringing.
As long as you’re both honest and open about things, and actually communicate properly with each other, it should be okay!
” “Even if you are shy, if you like someone you should be proactive about it.
I bet it’s difficult to filter the ones who are truly interested.
So for that part, a significant amount of patience might be necessary.” “Another difference I noticed has to do with taking care of the household.
We only spoke in Japanese with each other for a short time before he started to learn English, so he could communicate with me better.
We eventually stopped speaking Japanese and now I’m actually unable to speak Japanese in front of him (shy, embarrassed … I actually forget that he’s Japanese and that he can speak Japanese.” After we got married we had some trouble with things like housework and money, but I’m not sure if that’s just him, a Japanese trait, or normal married life.
At first, we went through periods where we would only speak English (which I didn’t like) or when we would only speak Japanese (which he didn’t like). ” “I think in general, it’s important to be very open about what you are expecting from the relationship.
Obviously we change it according to the circumstances (we are not going to speak in English to each other when out with a lot of Japanese friends! If you need a lot of hugs and affection, make sure that he knows and don’t just get annoyed that he’s not automatically doing it.