This is the time when people start thinking about finding someone they can commit to in the long run — a love that will last.When people first experience falling in love, it often starts as attraction.Dating can seem like a great way to have someone to go places with and do things with. If our friends are all dating someone, we might put pressure on ourselves to find a boyfriend or girlfriend too. It can almost seem like another version of cliques: The pressure to go out with the "right" person in the "right" group can make dating a lot less fun than it should be — and not so much about love!In our late teens, though, relationships are less about going out to have fun and fitting in.The crazy intensity of the passion and attraction phase fades a bit after a while.Like putting all our energy into winning a race, this kind of passion is exhilarating but far too extreme to keep going forever.You're attracted to someone physically but don't know the person well enough yet to feel the closeness that comes from sharing personal experiences and feelings.
By the time they reach their twenties, most girls and guys value support, closeness, and communication, as well as passion.
And the kind of love we feel in romantic relationships is its own unique type of love.
Our ability to feel romantic love develops during adolescence.
For example, closeness without attraction is the kind of love we feel for best friends.
We share secrets and personal stuff with them, we support them, and they stand by us. Attraction without closeness is more like a crush or infatuation.