Black women are going to school and getting degrees.”But don’t go deactivating those dating profiles just yet. In fact, some is strikingly good.“People are using race as a filter less than they ever have,” said Melissa Hobley, Ok Cupid’s chief marketing officer.
What data crunchers at Ok Cupid have seen, Hobley said, is an “unprecedented shift around psychographics.” That is, psychological markers like attitudes and values that can help predict compatibility. Between 20, “there has been a 1,000 percent increase in political terms being used in a dater’s profile,” Hobley said.
A 2014 blog post written by Ok Cupid co-founder Christian Rudder explains that, based on millions of user interactions, nonblack men found black women to be less attractive than those of other races.
We tend to be superstitious or concerned that having our business out there in the streets is going to come back and bite us in the bottom.”Those who do dip into the internet dating pool may find strains of discrimination muddy the waters.
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In many ways, the mechanics of dating are universal, regardless of whether you’re black, white, brown or “a colorless person,” as Raven-Symone famously described herself to Oprah in a 2014 interview.The 77-year-old actor has two daughters, Dominique, 52, from a previous marriage, and 36-year-old Natasha with his current wife Shakira Baksh.He always wanted to have a son, and was delighted when Natasha gave him two male grandchildren.That includes words like “voting,” “Republican,” “Democrat,” “right” and “left.”Spoiler alert: Talking politics pays dividends.“If you mention politics in your profile,” she said, “you’re three times more likely to get a message.”Here’s more strategic advice to help you sidestep the haters and find a partner who’s crazy about you, quirks and all. The secret, according to Hobley, is that most people are not confident, outgoing and full of swagger. The trick is to include details in your profile that help potential mates engage.List your favorite artists and TV shows you can’t live without, “so someone can say, ‘Ah, ‘Game of Thrones,’ OK, are you a house Lannister or a house Targaryen?’ ” But he relented, sent his buddy some profiles and struck gold. “The busiest day on Ok Cupid is Sunday,” Hobley said. Online dating is a tool to “expand possibilities,” Oladokun said, but “in no way should it define your existence.” Put differently, “I think having fun with it is much better than relying on it as something that’s going to, like, completely change your life.”———©2018 Chicago Tribune Visit the Chicago Tribune at by Tribune Content Agency, LLC.—————PHOTO (for help with images, contact 312-222-4194): No name-calling, personal insults or threats. No writing with your caps lock on – it's screaming. That friend went on to marry one of the women Seibert suggested. Call it a labor of love.———The world of digital dating can feel like a wonderland. Ghosting, bathroom selfies, bad syntax, rude nudes — frustrated singles might be compelled to throw up their hands and quote viral sensation Sweet Brown: “Ain’t nobody got time for that.”Along with run-of-the-mill challenges, black daters may encounter some unique complications. Many say there are common, cultural threads, and we’re here to tease them out.For professional black women seeking black men on the same plane, scarcity may be another, Seibert said, both online and off.“Black women are leagues ahead of black men educationally, professionally and financially — we’re still navigating the prison industrial complex.